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Worst Breastfeeding Fears

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Updated September 10, 2015

When mothers are asked about their worst breastfeeding fears, “Not enough milk,” “leaking,” “swelling,” “making others uncomfortable,” “latch” are always among the offerings, but more often than not one of the top concerns is “biting.” Given that moms are encouraged to breastfeed for at least a year (introducing complementary foods around 6 months of age), it is understandable why mothers are fearful of their baby biting at the breast. Breastfeeding isn’t always easy. But underlying fears can make breastfeeding even harder. Here are 7 of mothers’ worst breastfeeding fears—and ways to cope.

1. Biting
Biting usually occurs at the end of a feeding when a baby is no longer suckling and swallowing. When babies are well-latched, their mouths are filled with breast tissue and biting is a physical impossibility. But once a baby nears the end of a feeding, she starts to relax, and what was once a deep latch, becomes a shallow latch, at which point, biting is a real possibility. You can prevent biting by watching your baby’s sucking pattern. As soon as she stops sucking and swallowing (and reverts to a pattern of short sucks), slide your finger along your breast into your baby’s mouth, protect your nipple, and take your baby off the breast. Some babies (especially those who are teething) bite or gum the breast not realizing that it is painful for mom. If biting occurs, simply press your baby’s face into the breast for a few seconds. This will cause her to release the breast in order to breathe. Firmly tell her, “No biting.” Wait several minutes before offering the breast again. Your baby will quickly learn that biting has unwanted consequences and the biting will stop. To hear what other moms have to say about biting, watch our breastfeeding video on YouTube.

2. Pain
It’s not surprising that pain is one of the most common fears. Studies show that 8 out of 10 mothers report that breastfeeding is painful. It’s important for mothers to know that pain and latch go hand-in-hand. When a baby is poorly latched, nipples get squished between the roof of the baby’s mouth above and the tongue below. Moms can usually tell if their baby has a poor latch by examining their nipples before and after they breastfeed. When babies have a good, deep latch, the nipple is at the back of the baby’s mouth, so other than being lengthened (stretched out) the shape of the nipple is the same before and after breastfeeding. When babies are poorly latched, the nipple looks flattened or creased after breastfeeding. While achieving a good latch is the secret to pain-free breastfeeding, even mothers of babies with a good latch find that breastfeeding can be painful at first. Fortunately, this tugging, pulling, or painful sensation that occurs at the start of a feeding lasts for only a few seconds, and stops after a couple of weeks. If the pain persists throughout a feeding, between feedings, or for more than two weeks, be sure to get help from someone trained to help breastfeeding families, such as an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC), La Leche League Leader, or WIC peer counselor.

3. Latch
Because a good latch is key to successful breastfeeding, fears about how to achieve a good latch are easy to understand. Begin by watching your baby for early signs of hunger (such as wiggling, squirming, or sucking on fingers or fists) and offering the breast at those times. If you wait for your baby to cry (a late sign of hunger), she is more likely to latch on poorly and less likely to breastfeed well. Positioning your baby correctly at the breast will help her achieve a good latch on the breast. Choose a position that is comfortable for you and your baby. Think about how you face the table to eat a meal and position your baby in the same way—chin, chest, and knees facing the breast. Tickle your baby’s nose (or lips) with your nipple and wait for her mouth to open wide, as if she is yawning. Then quickly but gently place her on the breast—leading with her chin and lower lip. Your nipple will point slightly upwards, toward the roof of her mouth. Your baby’s tongue should be over her lower gum, between her lower lip and the breast. Her lips should curl out, like the lips of a fish, and lie flat against the breast.

When your baby is positioned well, you may see little or none of the areola (the darker part of the breast around the nipple). How much areola you see will depend on the size of your areola and the size of your baby’s mouth. You will usually see more areola on the top, above your baby’s lip, than on the bottom. Your baby’s nose and cheeks may gently touch the breast, and her chin should press firmly into the breast. You will know that your baby has a good latch if you hear her suck, swallow, and breathe in a regular pattern and breastfeeding is comfortable for you. Watch our breastfeeding video on YouTube to hear what other moms have to say about latch. And review this slideshow of breastfeeding positions for mother and baby.

4. Leaking
Many moms experience leaking, especially during the early weeks when babies are eating at all hours of the day and night. Leaking is caused by the let-down or milk ejection reflex, which is triggered when your baby breastfeeds. A let-down reflex can also occur when you hear your baby (or another baby) cry, see a picture of your baby, or simply think about your baby. (Having an orgasm can also trigger a let-down, so be sure to breastfeed before having sex.) Some moms feel a tingling sensation just before their milk starts to drip or spray, but some get no warning. Once your baby establishes a feeding schedule (generally after 4–6 weeks), and the breasts know how much milk to make and when to make it, leaking will be less of a concern. In the meantime, breast pads can provide short-term protection for your clothing. Avoid pads with waterproof liners that trap moisture against the skin. Wearing patterned clothing (small prints) can also cover up a multitude of mishaps.